Questions & Answers

Q. My wife is not as interesting or attractive to me as when we met. What can I do about this?

A. If you are willing to approach marriage the way God wants, your wife will become more and more interesting, regardless of her age or appearance. 

God purposefully created Adam and Eve to help each other obey Him. A simple task, but only if Adam and Eve worked together, watched each other’s backs, built each other’s strengths, helped each other live primarily for God.

Unfortunately for us, it didn’t go that way, so now we have the same assignment as sinful creatures, unlike Adam and Eve who who had not yet sinned. If Adam and Eve needed each other’s help, how much more do husbands and wives need each other this side of the Fall?

So transform your marriage into something very significant. Since Jesus is more personally present with two or three who meet in His name, your marriage has tremendous potential. Examining all 65 of the Togethers will show you many ways that God can be significantly worshiped through your obedience as a couple. Be sure to recognize how each Together reflects back to God His own character. And examine how two people who give their lives “until death do you part” can go far deeper in obedience because of their greater familiarity and lifelong opportunity to help each other. 

Think about how God puts up with our irritating behaviors and thoughts all day, every day. Now, who else but a spouse has to bear with that sort of thing to a similar extent? At an institutional church, we have to put up with someone’s annoying behavior only briefly on one day of the week. Usually, we can find a way to leave that person in less than five minutes. But when a husband and wife learn to accept one another’s limitations and unattractive behavior, then they act like God. 

If worship is reflecting back to God His own character, then God is worshiped when we overlook the irritating aspects of our spouse. And, to go further, just as God patiently works to help us eliminate our objectionable behavior and thinking, so do husbands and wives work with each other.

The point is this: Get on with the assignment God has given you and build a marriage that gets important things done for Him. Stop wrestling with marshmallows, get out there and play ball!