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    • Being Married >
      • Finding Long-Term Stability and Deep Meaning
      • Preventing Unfaithfulness
      • Growing in Christ Together
      • Enjoying Each Other
    • Raising a Family >
      • Having Enough Money
      • Helping One Another Succeed
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    • Having Friends >
      • Making Friends
      • Keeping Friendships Interesting and Meaningful
      • Meshing with Family
    • Being Single >
      • Finding Meaning in Life and Dealing with Loneliness
      • Picking a Mate
    • Aging Well >
      • Getting in Touch with Life’s Deeper Meaning
      • Avoiding Helplessness
      • Surviving Financially
      • Not Burdening the Kids
      • Braving Illness
      • Facing Death with Courage
    • Tackling Life >
      • Preventing or Resolving Conflict
      • Succeeding in a Job
      • Maintaining and Growing in Purity
  • Essential Foundations
    • Preface & Introduction
    • Chapter 1: Growth of Our Spirits into Christ's Image
    • Chapter 2: Faith Together Must Become Essential
    • Chapter 3: Preparing for Heaven Needs to Be Now
    • Chapter 4: The Togethers in Worship & Battle
    • Chapter 5: The Togethers and Eternal Relationship with God
  • The Togethers
    • Togethers of Relationship with God >
      • 01 Worship God
      • 02 Submit to God
      • 03 Led by Jesus
      • 04 Communicate with God
      • 05 Serve God
    • Attitudinal Togethers >
      • 06 Love
      • 07 Belong to
      • 08 Be Devoted
      • 09 Accept
      • 10 Bear with
      • 11 Forgive
      • 12 Submit to One Another
      • 13 Serve One Another
    • Togethers That Hold Together >
      • 14 Citizens of Heaven
      • 15 Meet Together
      • 16 Unity
      • 17 Peace
      • 18 Humble
      • 19 Harmony
      • 20 Mercy
      • 21 Meet Needs
    • Togethers That Strengthen >
      • 22 Hospitable
      • 23 Treat Equally
      • 24 Share
      • 25 Administer Grace
      • 26 Speak Truthfully
      • 27 Encourage >
        • Encouragement Methods
      • 28 Honor
      • 29 Commend
      • 30 Spur On
    • Togethers That Heal >
      • 31 Hurt With
      • 32 Comfort
      • 33 Confess Sins
      • 34 Carry Burdens
      • 35 Restore Faith
    • Togethers of Spiritual Growth >
      • 36 Seek the Kingdom
      • 37 Pursue Holiness
      • 38 Examine Faith
      • 39 Teach
      • 40 Counsel
      • 41 Disciple
      • 42 See Do His or Her Part
      • 43 Face Discipline
    • Togethers of Involvement in the World >
      • 44 Be Salt
      • 45 Be Wise
    • Togethers of Evangelism >
      • 46 Uphold Messengers in Prayer
      • 47 Be the Light
    • Togethers of Battle >
      • 48 Contend for the Faith
      • 49 Arm Yourselves
      • 50 Warn
      • 51 Battle Temptation
      • 52 Stand Up to Devil
      • 53 Test the Spirits
      • 54 Hate Evil
      • 55 Die For
      • 56 Rescue and Restore
    • Togethers of Perseverance >
      • 57 Pray for One Another
      • 58 Run the Race
      • 59 Preserve Hope
      • 60 Face Hardship
      • 61 Hold to the Truth
      • 62 Look Out for One Another's Good
      • 63 Forbid Mistreatment
      • 64 Prevent Love Money
      • 65 Prevent Revenge
  • Resources & Applications
    • Friends Together with Jesus >
      • Getting Started in Friendships That Build the Church
      • Jesus in the Cereal Aisle
      • 3 Friends Walk into a Cafe
    • Family Together with Jesus >
      • Getting Started in Family Life That Builds the Church
      • How to Lead a Family as a Family
      • Successful Family Dialogue
    • Marriage Together with Jesus >
      • God-Centered Marriage
      • Getting Started in Helping Your Marriage Build the Church
      • Successful Couple Dialogue
      • Powerful Hints for a Successful Marriage
    • Communication & Fun Games

Questions & Answers


Q. My wife is not as interesting or attractive to me as when we met. What can I do about this?

A. 
If you are willing to approach marriage the way God wants, your wife will become more and more interesting, regardless of her age or appearance. 

God purposefully created Adam and Eve to help each other obey Him. A simple task, but only if Adam and Eve worked together, watched each other’s backs, built each other’s strengths, helped each other live primarily for God.

Unfortunately for us, it didn’t go that way, so now we have the same assignment as sinful creatures, unlike Adam and Eve who who had not yet sinned. If Adam and Eve needed each other’s help, how much more do husbands and wives need each other this side of the Fall?

So transform your marriage into something very significant. Since Jesus is more personally present with two or three who meet in His name, your marriage has tremendous potential. Examining all 65 of the Togethers will show you many ways that God can be significantly worshiped through your obedience as a couple. Be sure to recognize how each Together reflects back to God His own character. And examine how two people who give their lives “until death do you part” can go far deeper in obedience because of their greater familiarity and lifelong opportunity to help each other. 

Think about how God puts up with our irritating behaviors and thoughts all day, every day. Now, who else but a spouse has to bear with that sort of thing to a similar extent? At an institutional church, we have to put up with someone’s annoying behavior only briefly on one day of the week. Usually, we can find a way to leave that person in less than five minutes. But when a husband and wife learn to accept one another’s limitations and unattractive behavior, then they act like God. 

If worship is reflecting back to God His own character, then God is worshiped when we overlook the irritating aspects of our spouse. And, to go further, just as God patiently works to help us eliminate our objectionable behavior and thinking, so do husbands and wives work with each other.


The point is this: Get on with the assignment God has given you and build a marriage that gets important things done for Him. Stop wrestling with marshmallows, get out there and play ball!
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